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boston marathon 2015

happy marathon monday!!!!

today was an excellent day, i had the day off (obvi, because this is massachusetts and it’s patriot’s day) and it was my first time attending the boston marathon and i actually enjoyed it a lot!! the weather was not so great, but it didn’t completely ruin the entire race/day. i thought i’d share some pictures i managed to snap during my time downtown!

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the terrifying & hilarious world of tinder

at this point, if you haven’t heard of the app tinder, what the fuck are you doing? just kidding. i’m sure a lot of people have no idea what tinder is, and that’s totally fine. but i think most people do, and a lot of them are active on the app, so this post is entirely dedicated to this now-infamous and immensely culturally relevant app and my own personal experience with it.

so first off, what is tinder? basically, it’s a free dating app available on most smartphones and the premise of it is that, according to your indicated preferences, you are presented with a picture of an individual, as well as their “profile” (sometimes a series of pictures of them, their shared “Likes” or mutual friends with you from Facebook, and a short bio), if you wish. after that, you can swipe “left” if you want no interaction with them or swipe “right”  if you wish to potentially talk to that person. if you do swipe right however, in order to actually talk to this person, they are notified through the app and have to be “matched” with you (essentially a reciprocated desire to communicate) so you can begin. as for the whole discovery preferences part, on your settings page, you can also indicate whether you want to see men, women, or both, adjust the age range (from 18 to 55+), and and adjust the distance range based on your location (1-100 miles).

i first downloaded tinder when i came to college back in september, primarily because i thought it was a good way to meet cute new england boys here and also because i thought there was a great possibility that most of the people on it would not be as scummy as a lot of the guys back in jersey. and i was right about this, thanks! (i used it while i was at home for winter break and forreal now….. some of y’all look 35 not 19) so i tried it, and yeah i guess i would say that it’s fun. the thing is though, i’ve had it for months now and i’ve only been using it just to look at cute guys, i’ve never once swiped right on anybody. some of the guys actually do seem kind of decent–but you never know with the internet–and obviously physically attractive, but i’m to scared to swipe right on anybody because i’m a baby!

honestly this is not even that big a deal. i know for sure that it’s not the end of the world if a guy doesn’t get matched with me and i don’t even think that’s what’s really holding me back. a large part of it is general fear that the guy will be a total asshole or just boring and creepy or whatever which is totally normal. but my biggest concern is that if we do start talking, i won’t know what to talk about at all. i’m a terrible TERRIBLE TERRIBLE texter as it is and even if i do manage to talk about something and we end up meeting in person i’ll have to explain at some point that i don’t have any friends at school and i’m alone all the time? also if it does get serious, hooking up with a stranger from the fucking INTERNET is kind of scary to me? and i’ve never been in the “hooking up” situation ever in the first place?????????? and most importantly, i’m ugly and fat as fuck????????????????????????????????????

……..so that’s the place i’m in right now. this isn’t completely devastating to me or anything, i think it’s just kind of frustrating that it’s yet another thing i can’t take control of in my life. what else is new? like everything, though, i’m working on it slowly.

but i do genuinely like tinder, mostly because i like looking at cute guys when i’m bored and ESPECIALLY the guys who make me literally laugh out loud with their creative profile pictures and short, ironic biographies. if you ever asked me if i would recommend tinder to you, i would definitely say yes, if only for the laughs. i mean, i’ve seen a lot of real relationships come to fruition from tinder, and from what i can tell it’s not that different from dating in real life. even though this is real life. i think i mean as opposed to assisted pairing. whatever, what i’m saying is that sometimes there is a possibility that relationships that start on tinder can actually result into something serious. but generally, tinder shouldn’t be taken seriously at all. just my #onion tho. i think most people use it just to hook up with Singles In Your Area Dying To Meet You !!™share dumb jokes, have brief but interesting conversations, and to simply troll people anyways, so if you’re interested the best advice i can give you is to not overthink it like i do. just have fun!!!!!

on that note, here are some of my favorite people that i’ve come across on tinder, specifically here in the boston area

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so shout out to you boys, who honestly make my day and give me a good chuckle right before i go to bed. i had to clear space in my iphone just to keep this app for you. i love y’all.

winter in boston

right off the bat, i’d like to put it out there that my favorite seasons of the year are the ones that are slightly cold and not extremely warm, and the ones you have to put a couple of items of clothing on for. in other words, autumn and winter. autumn is without a doubt, my favorite. as for winter, i’d say that i like it most of the time, but i don’t like it in the respect that it means freezing temperatures and a shitload of snow for at least five or six months out of the year. growing up on the east coast is especially bad during these months because the cold weather usually doesn’t hold up until late april/early may so it can feel like winter for much longer than it should.

as may (or may not) know, i decided to stay on the east coast for college and attend university in a different region, specifically new england. in essence, massachusetts is not that different from new jersey or the tri-state area in the sense that the climate and the weather is pretty much the same all year round–disgustingly humid in the spring and summer, crisp and cool (and PERFECT) in the fall, and polar vortex in the winter. nonetheless, i accepted that since massachusetts is relatively farther up north, there was a great possibility that the winter would seem and actually be a lot harsher.

back at home, i’d go to school where it was pretty cold inside and out, and then head outside after school ended to wait for the bus in the freezing cold of the late afternoon. then i’d get dropped off about a block from my house and trudge through the ice and snow and biting wind and finally arrive at my house where i was welcomed by an equally freezing atmosphere. so basically, it was cold everywhere all the time. and i was reminded of just how cold it gets when i went back home for winter break. just my luck, it happened to get extremely cold during the month that i was there! nice!

in my experience, it has gotten pretty cold here, but i think that i feel it a lot less than back at home. when i go outside to go to class or go farther downtown on the weekends, it can get unbearably cold; but, when i return to my dorm and the building that i live in, it’s always nicely heated. sometimes overheated. so much so that by the time i get to my room on the 13th floor, i’m literally sweating my ass off and i have to shed all the layers i have on immediately. not cute.

that being said, i’ve really enjoyed spending winter here. i’ve already had three snow days (today is one of them) and the city looks absolutely beautiful covered in snow. it’s snowing right now, and there is zero visibility outside, with practically no one driving on the pike or on commonwealth ave. (i particularly enjoy this because the pike is right behind the building i live in, and the droning of cars driving is a sound i cannot escape at any hour of the day while i’m in my dorm)

anyway, i thought i’d share some nice pictures i’ve taken while wandering around campus and the city. hope you enjoy.

this one I took on the BU bridge the first time it snowed. i've been here a couple of times and it's got an incredible view of the skyline and the charles river. i think it's my favorite place on campus.

this one I took on the BU bridge the first time it snowed. i’ve been here a couple of times and it’s got an incredible view of the skyline and the charles river. i think it’s my favorite place on campus.

this is a picture of my favorite mug filled with some hot chocolate that was distressingly awful

this is a picture of my favorite mug filled with some hot chocolate that was distressingly awful

this one i took on the second snow day of the semester. i walked around campus for about an hour and it was beautiful. the streets were completely empty and it was still snowing a little. i also listened to a really good mix of songs while walking around, and honestly....it was a lil' magical.

this one i took on the second snow day of the semester. i walked around campus for about an hour and it was beautiful. the streets were completely empty and it was still snowing a little. i also listened to a really good mix of songs while walking around, and honestly….it was a lil’ magical.

this is the view from my building's dining hall; usually you have a great view of the prudential tower and the citgo sign, but today there was zero visibility. also, BU apparently has its own snapchat geofilter now! i think it's adorable.

this is the view from my building’s dining hall; usually you have a great view of the prudential tower and the citgo sign, but today there was zero visibility. also, BU apparently has its own snapchat geofilter now! i think it’s adorable.

 

i actually saw this bike rack on instagram and i immediately told myself that i had to go and take a picture of it to post on there myself. i'm not going to lie to you, sometimes i just go to places around the city to take pictures of them and post them. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯this is on winter street, right in front of the macy's in downtown crossing.

i actually saw this bike rack on instagram and i immediately told myself that i had to go and take a picture of it to post on there myself. i’m not going to lie to you, sometimes i just go to places around the city to take pictures of them and post them. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯this is on winter street, right in front of the macy’s in downtown crossing.  

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these were taken last week, at copley square in front of the public library and in the library’s courtyard. i’m always in and around copley square, and surprisingly enough i had never taken the time to actually visit the BPL. but, now i have and it is easily one of my favorite places in the city. the architecture is gorgeous.

are you there, beyonce? it’s me nerissa and i want to know how you made it without college?

julian dangerous

(hi everyone. this is my first post on this blog and i hope that any/everyone enjoys it. i’m going to try my best to keep it as real as possible.)

exactly two weeks ago, i came back to boston after a very nice, much much needed winter break in new jersey. i could talk to you about how it went, but i think i’ll leave that for another time.

whatever. the point is that i came back to school extremely sad that i had to leave my parents and my very comfortable bed for school again to start a new semester. a couple of days earlier, i had felt very excited to come back because i thought it would be an excellent opportunity to start fresh. my first semester at college was not as wonderful as i hoped it would be, so i told myself that spring semester would be the time to get my shit together, considering i would have all new classes, and i would meet some new transfer students that i could potentially become friends with.

last semester, i absolutely failed academically. i mean i didn’t tank completely, but my grades were not acceptable–by my parents’ standards and even my own. i dedicated most of my time to locking myself up in my dorm and watching an insane amount of television series and movies and ridiculous youtube clips. i would think about all the work i had to do, and immediately told myself that what was more important was “me time”. so i would either not do homework or study at all, hand in assignments half-assed and late, and not participate in class as much as i could have. i would complain all the time about how difficult the work was for me, but not do anything about it and ended up telling myself that it wasn’t going to be important in the long run, that none of these stupid assignments weren’t going to matter in twenty-something years when i was done with college and navigating life as a Grown-Ass Adult.

the thing i didn’t tell myself, though, was how much this stuff really did matter in the short term. over the break, i realized that not only was this kind of destructive to me personally and as a student, but i was also completely disrespecting the fact that my parents are paying a shit ton of money for me to go here. my mom tells me at least once a week that i’m here to study and for no other purpose but to help me pursue the career that i want.

so i told myself that this semester was going to be different, and i’m really trying to do better with time/priority management in terms of schoolwork. i still find myself neglecting some of my work and questioning whether going to college was a good decision in the first place, but yeah. i’m working on it. i promise.

another thing that also didn’t go so well for me last semester was socializing and making friends. i really struggled with making friends in high school, and before i started college in september my biggest concern was repeating high school all over again. i came in really confident and set on making friends because so many people have told me that college is the best new beginning you could ever possibly get, and every one is on the same boat. but that didn’t stop me! i did the same exact thing i did in high school which was not try to talk to anyone in class, worry too much about what people would think of me, and not “be myself”. that’s probably the shittiest piece of advice you could give a person with social anxiety/people who have trouble making friends, i think. what the fuck does that even mean? i don’t know who the hell i am, that’s honestly so useless to me and people say it all the damn time. how am i supposed to be myself when i change all the fucking time????

now, i don’t know if i actually do “formally” have social anxiety or anything, but i’ve been reading about it and i think i might have a moderate form of social anxiety. it’s not even that i’m anxious about talking to people, sometimes i really am, but i think i just have a hard time relating to other people or knowing what to say and how to keep a conversation going. also to be very honest not very many people here are extremely friendly, so it’s not like people are trying to get to know me either. at least in my time here. that might come off sounding like an excuse, but how can you become friends with someone if they don’t want to be friends with you?

in any case, some other good advice that came my way about making new friends and just meeting new people was to join some university clubs/activities, etc. so i did. i was really really interested in participating in college radio, and i signed up as soon as i could. and i actually got to!! it was pretty nice, i “interned” on an indie rock-themed show with two other girls who were really nice and got to talk to some of the other girls who ran the show and were upperclassmen. one of the girls that was there the most often was actually also a journalism major and liked a lot of the same music and other stuff i did and on a number of occasions we talked about some of the bands we liked and the concerts we had been to, and i really enjoyed our conversations. i actually really liked playing a lot of my favorite songs and new music on the show, as well as just talking about music and entertainment/life news with everybody else so i would say it was a really great experience. naturally, i wanted to be on radio again, but this time if i wanted to i had to create my own show which would have taken a lot of effort and i probably would have done it alone so radio for spring semester is probably not going to happen. but we’ll see; i’ll keep you guys posted.

aside from radio, another organization i wanted to get involved in was the school’s independent newspaper in order to sort of build up my experience and writing resume as an aspiring journalist. so i went to a meeting the other day, and i luckily it was a good one, so i applied on friday for a staff position. and guess what? ya girl got the job!!!! just this morning the head of the section i wanted to write for e-mailed me saying that the newspaper had accepted my application and that i had to accept the offer so i could start writing.

this is the happiest i’ve been about something in the longest time and it kind of makes me want to cry. i’m crying right now. i’m excited to actually build up my resume and get some cool networking opportunities, but most of all get the chance to talk and work with people who share the same interests. last semester i literally spent all my time alone every day of the week, talking to no one but my parents and my roommates and i was overwhelmingly unhappy and stressed about every single aspect of my life. i’m very optimistic about this (and other things) happening, and just maybe…. this semester will not be all that bad.